Friday, May 22, 2009

Single Moms Have It Easier!?!

As a quasi-attorney, I really like lawyer jokes. And since I vehemently object to the text of the article I'm going to talk about, I thought this little cartoon worked perfectly.

Apparently the women that read Babytalk Magazine would rather not have a partner around when it comes to parenting. They think it would just be easier to do it alone. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?! Almost 2/3 of the unmarried moms that responded to the survey said it's sometimes easier to not have a husband or boyfriend. Their reasons, you ask:
  • No arguing over how to raise the kids

  • Don't have to worry about working on their marriage

  • Free to follow their own dreams

I just loved this little gem of a quote:

"A friend of mine has two little boys and one very big one: Her husband is more
of a responsibility than a partner," says Amy King of Kissimmee, Florida. "I
would rather be single than in an unequal relationship. I don't have that cloud
hanging over me if the relationship needs work and I'm too tired to put in the
effort. And I don't have time to get lonely!"

Even some of the married moms agreed it would be easier to go it alone. A whopping 22% of the married respondents felt that way.

And here I thought I was being helpful. Apparently I'm just getting in the way and creating more work for my wife. Haven't men for years been berated for taking an active role in the lives of their children? We've told how important it is to be there, be helpful and be supportive. Then I go and read something like this. Almost makes me feel like men just can't win. Either we're not doing enough or we're in the way.

By the way, Happy Fatherhood Friday everyone!

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  1. Dude, throw those rags away. We get Babytalk and it goes straight to the recycling bin - right after I rip off the address label so I can shred it. How fun is it that it is address to me, and not my wife, YEAH! Those magazines are crap and the sensationalism in the writing is even worse. Do what you think it right for you and your family. That's all that matters. These 'parenting' magazines are the biggest waste of natural resources ever. If you care to pay attention you'll notice every six months they'll throw you the same recycled article with a new title. But all they'll really do is either bring you down, or, if you're me, infuriate you into a white hot rage. Now go crank 'Shimmer and Shine' and forget about those rags.

  2. I hate to admit that as a SAHD, sometimes less is more. I still NEED my wife to help but sometimes, it's just easier to do a job myself. I think it's that way with everything though, not just the kids.

    I think it's more of an "I'm used to doing it this way and you're doing it wrong" issue though.

  3. I think what we all need to remember here is that women ruin everything.

    But seriously, they just want to bitch and moan and have everyone feel sorry for them. They want you to help, but they want you to do it their way, not yours. Well guess what ladies? You can't have it both ways. So shut your damn yappers and be grateful we're involved dads making an effort.

  4. Dude, just like when musicians go solo, they say it's easier to work when they have complete control, but their music is always shittier than when they were in a band. Conflict creates greatness.

  5. Those people don't have parenting problems. They have relationship issues, which a whole separate ball of wax. It wouldn't matter if they had kids or not--they need to work on their partnership, hopefully long before they decide to have kids!

  6. @Apok That is badass! Great metaphor.

    @Daddy Files I guess I'm lucky, b/c my wife has never done that to me. She has never criticized how I did something she asked me to do. That would be terribly annoying.

  7. Anything I have to say pales in comparison to Apok so I will just leave it to him. Well said.

  8. Wow, Kyle! These people don't understand that the best things in life, including relationships and raising children take time and work. These parents are probably the same parents that beleive that it is important to be your child's friend 1st, and parent last. Great! Now I'm all fired up! :) -Jason